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Author: cristomatt Subject: 39 year old virgin new here
tommy123
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posted on 10-13-2006 at 18:45 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
39 year old virgin new here

Hey everyone, just saw this forum, nice place.
Im a 39 year old virgin and not because i couldnt get any. Ive decided to wait till marriage. Its nice to be here and hopefully i can contribute a thing or 2 to this forum.
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posted on 10-15-2006 at 07:54 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
hmmmm

hmmmm, interesting. Most of the virgins I know who are waiting till marriage, get married right out of college as fast as they can to the first person they date. They are usually married from 18-24 at the oldest.

What if you never get married? You are fine going your whole life without sex? Too many virgins will get married just so they can "finally" have sex. In otherwords, sex is the main reason they got married and most are now divorced!
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posted on 10-16-2006 at 10:09 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Marriage as a sex license

The whole concept of marriage as a license for sex is fundamentally flawed. The person you end up with might end up being unredeemably dead in the sack which effectively kills any hopes you may have had for a sex life. That's something you're going to want to know before you make a lifelong pledge to be with that person.

You need to know exactly what you're getting into, both figuratively and literally.
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posted on 10-16-2006 at 22:06 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Virginity

Angel , if it never happens, it never happens.To me my virginity is special
and i wont get married just for the sake of sex. Sanji , i truely believe in my heart that true love making is beyond sex. sex by itself is just a physical instintive act which is nothing special without the heart. Marriage isnt worth a thing if your heart doesnt love her heart and vice versa.
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posted on 10-17-2006 at 07:52 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Don't believe lies about sex

Actually I don't agree that you first have to have sex to 'test out the water' to see how compatible you are. If this were true there wouldn't be so many unhappy and divorced marriages. Many people I know had great sex lives while dating, got married and it was all down hill from there!!! The sex seemed to dwindle down to nothing..The thrill was gone. What people don't realize is that sex WILL become boring. You might think the sex is exciting while dating, but how do you know this will last? It NEVER does! You can start out with lust, but lust will not survive the test of time if that's all you have going for you. Sex is about learning, improving, and discovering together which often gets better as you both become familiar each other's bodies.
Having a great sex life while dating will not ensure that you are now safe in marriage. That is a dangours thing to believe. This does not mean you will have great married sex!!!!! Anyone at any time can lose their desire in sex or develop a sexual dysfunction. Trust me, I studied sexual dysfunctions in college. I took many sex classes actually.
Plus, if someone has an aversion toward sex or hates sex, this is something most people would find out before getting married. You'd find out pretty fast just from communicating, if the person had positive or negative view of sex. People are not cars to be 'tested' out on! That's kind of demeaning.

Everyone has the capacity to enjoy sex..Our bodies have been built that way...If you love the person you will try and help them or get them councilling because they have either been abused, were raised to dislike sex or have selfish husbands who don't know who to please them with old Victorian-like ideas about sex!!!!

A good sex life should never overshadow other aspects of the relationship. You should fall in love with the person first and then progress to sex, whether married or not. It is possible to wait until marriage and have a wonderful sex life. You should never get married because the sex is good...many people rely on lust, get married and when this does not sustain them, they get divorced.
Here is site that shows proof that waiting till marriage does not mean incompatiblity...read through the forums, it's quite impressive that most of them married as virgins and now have great/adventourous sex lives...

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posted on 10-18-2006 at 18:49 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
DreamAngel

Very good statement. I imagine that most people these days consider sex to be the foundation of any romantic relationship when it should be love. I always hear guys refer to their women as their old ladies or vice versa for women. Where has the magic gone these days. It seems like relationships are no longer considered special but something that can be interchanged as if someone were getting rid of some old boots and getting a new one. I was recently on a talk show and it seemed like virgins were considered something u would only see at an old 1880's side show circus. What we need is a large virginity portal online.
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posted on 10-21-2006 at 02:56 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
39 also .............

Hi Tommy,

I'm 39 as well. Are you in the UK ?

Dave
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posted on 10-21-2006 at 08:17 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
39 also

Hey Dave, no im in san diego.
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posted on 10-23-2006 at 20:25 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
30 club

Dave andTommy,
Welcome to the board.It's good to see more virgins intheir 30 joining the board.I'm a 36 year old virgin in California.
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posted on 10-28-2006 at 01:32 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
but...

my dear, you've spelt regard wrong...
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well, it depends

There are many kinds of people. For some going using an escort service will be a great experience and it will solve theire problem. Others (like me) will find the experience causing to feel abit more empty and a little more lonely then before because of the artificiality of it. The third kind is a development of the second kind - They get totally screwd up and they will never be able to climb up from the pit without councelling.
Sadly, you can never know how you will feel until you actually do it - have sex only with a loved one and feel glad about it or regret the waste of time.
Have sex without love and feel great or empty or crazy.
It depends on your personality (God, I hope I won't be the third kind with time! )
And anyway in my opinion escort services should be used only as a last solution when you feel, no, when you know that you reached a point that if you will continue as is, you might do something even more stupid...
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posted on 01-14-2007 at 01:48 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
last

'There are many kinds of people. For some going using an escort service will be a great experience and it will solve theire problem. Others (like me) will find the experience causing to feel abit more empty and a little more lonely then before because of the artificiality of it. The third kind is a development of the second kind - They get totally screwd up and they will never be able to climb up from the pit without councelling.
Sadly, you can never know how you will feel until you actually do it - have sex only with a loved one and feel glad about it or regret the waste of time.
Have sex without love and feel great or empty or crazy.
It depends on your personality (God, I hope I won't be the third kind with time! )
And anyway in my opinion escort services should be used only as a last solution when you feel, no, when you know that you reached a point that if you will continue as is, you might do something even more stupid...'


Yes last resort
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posted on 12-21-2007 at 23:58 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Escort services

Great point. And when you get there you may find you don't even need to have sex but just have a woman put her arms around you, treat you like a gorgeous person and LISTEN to your problems and heartaches...

I'm sure given the choice, many prostitutes would rather chat than f***. If only men would be more open to the alternatives...
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41 tear old

41 year old male virgin.
I was stupid in my teens when i had plenty of chances to lose my virginity, the closest i aload was aBJ to a girl. Now i am doutting losing it other than to a hooker. Am increasingly doutting my sexuality.
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posted on 10-15-2008 at 13:16 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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Do you feel content with yourselves knowing you've never had the feeling of a nice warm pair of vagina lips round your virgin cocks?
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posted on 10-15-2008 at 13:18 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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You should just go and order a hooker round your house right now

Seriously

Another case of fanny fright if I ever did see it
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Contact a Mr I.Arnballs for help finding a hooker.
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Yeah our bar has his eyes on a new black one if I recall
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Virginity

40 year old female virgin here.
When I was in high school i never had any dates or chances to lose my virginity.
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all the best

This is really interesting. i would say that be the best man to get your wif with the best satifaction...
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