The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 12-16-2005 at 23:35 |
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Do you think that Oral sex is Sex or Not?
In the past I have had past arguements that oral sex is NOT sex....I belive that it is consider as sex. What do you think?...(Note:Please no fighting by the way)..Thanks and I look foward to your feedback.:)
Enter either 1, 2, 3 for your answer and then explain why (if you want to)
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moonlite
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posted on 12-17-2005 at 14:46 |
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Oral Sex Poll
I think Oral sex is much more involved than just a girl and a boy using their usual oragns. I am not sure I will do oral sex even after I marry. I have touched one boy and was scared but did not let him touch through clothes.
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virgin22
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posted on 01-18-2006 at 15:10 |
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sex is sex
Although, oral sex leaves the participants physically unchanged I feel that it does change them somehow mentally. Its kind of hard to explain. I mean when I was in high school I would hear some of the other guys talking about it and there were few that thought that oral sex was sex or felt that it caused the peson to no longer be a virgin Anyway I do feel that oral sex would change a person's virginity.(I'm assuming thats why virgin nurse started this poll). They may still call themself a virgin but its just not quite the same but thats probably just the religious upbringing talking.
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secretsquirrel
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posted on 02-01-2006 at 19:14 |
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Yeah
It's sex.
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virginguy81
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posted on 02-02-2006 at 22:24 |
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its a sexual act
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The_Scribe
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posted on 02-16-2006 at 01:08 |
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Yes
It sure is. It's called oral sex. ![wink](https://forum.singlemenonline.com/img/site/im/icon_smile_wink.gif)
You may not have had intercourse, but you're not really a virgin or pure.
I wouldn't consider any woman a virgin or marry her if she did that.
Touching someone else is wrong if you say you're waiting. You need to wait completely.
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Chemical_Compound
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posted on 02-17-2006 at 00:06 |
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Oral Sex, hence the word sex in the name..
I feel it would change you mentally if nothing else. It is one human engauging in a sexual act with another. So yes I would say that it is indeed a form of sex. There are different types of sex out there just like there are different types of cars. You have so many different types of cars, but in the end they are all cars just the same. It matters not what the car looks like or what the car runs on the fact is that it is a car no matter how you look at it.
Same thing with sex, You have different levels and types of sex. Diffrent people like different things in dealing with sex. Gays and Lesbians have their own form of sex that is still sex. My car runs off of gasoline, but your car might be electric. They are both cars no matter what they run on. A guy and a girl, a guy and a guy, a girl and a girl having oral or any other kind of sex is just the same.
We need to remember that sex was designed for reproduction, but over time humans have incorporated sex as part of a relationship with someone you love no-matter who you are with. Sex also defines what level the relationship is at and where it might be headed.
My own personal note.
I am a 22 year old male virgin. I haven't even kissed a girl before so I define my virginity at a high percentage. I am really waiting for a special girl to come along.
It does get harder each year I get older, but I have full control over my body and my mind.
I have allot to think about in terms of waiting... My dads best friends son waited well into his mid 20's and he got married to a very lovely young woman. Their family went on a cruise for two weeks after the day they got married. When they returned they had been talking about starting a family. They were waiting for the right time to start as they had been saving themselves for marriage. Three weeks after they were married they were shot down by a man who did not belong on the streets. With an AK-47 full automatic Assualt Rifle in hand he walked onto their front lawn shooting them both down with armor piercing bullets. They didn't even have a chance.. They did not get the chance to have that bond with eachother or to even start a family. The reason the guy shot them is because some kids in the area knocked over his bird bath. My dads best friends son was cleaning out his truck and his new wife was cooking when they died. I saw their house with bullet holes that I could stick three fingers in loosely. I went to their viewing and saw the loss. This was a young couple very much in love with eachother who had waited their whole life for that moment and it was taken away from them just as the moment came for them.
Being virgin is wonderful as I know I am free of any STD's out there aswell as knowing that it will be the first time for me. When I do have a partner she will be able to feel safe knowing that the kiss we share is my first and that everything past that is new and that will intern remove some of the fear. What happend to my dads bestfriends son gives me something to think about. Not to mention once you get past a certin age time starts becoming your enemy. I am willing to wait as I have the strength to do so. I am the last man in my family to pass on the family name so that is something else that I have to think about. There's no one after me.. I am the last as it is just my father and I who have the original family name. These are some of the things I think about when I am laying in bed alone at night. I start to then factor all the things together.. how fast time goes by ... how so many relationships just dont work out and how long those failing relationships might last.
The thought of letting my family name die out.. to think of all the struggles my past
family members went through to put me where I am...Even family members I wouldn't have ever been able to meet.... to just let that die out fears me.
I am 120% virgin I've never had a girlfriend and haven't done anything with a girl other than talk. I live alone on my own place that I have paid for in full. I am trying
to set things up so that things don't have to be hard for anyone who is with me. I have done all of this prep work and have waited.
So why do women run when they learn that I am virgin? Why do they run when they find out that I haven't ever had a girlfriend?
-Ryan
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The_Scribe
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posted on 02-17-2006 at 21:57 |
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RE:Chemical_Compound
The story about the couple that was killed is too sad. ![sad](https://forum.singlemenonline.com/img/site/im/icon_smile_sad.gif)
I am like you a true virgin, but I've been out with two woman.
If any woman runs away from you because you're a virgin they aren't worth your time.
Western culture isn't moral any more.
Sad but true.
I've had my own trouble finding pure women.
I've thought about mail order brides ect.
Women in other countries (cultures) are more moral. Not every one of them but it seems like there are more in other countries than here.
Also, woman in this country are high maintenance, and expect much more from their husbands. I can see why they are still single living in apartments by themselves some with children because they couldn't wait.
So-called "men" in this country (and some women)
Need to realize that sex is about bonding not just for fun or something to do because they are bored.
Being celibate until marriage is a very good idea, and will keep you from stds, aids, herpes.
It's also nice to tell your spouse they were worth waiting for and they are your first everything. ![wink](https://forum.singlemenonline.com/img/site/im/icon_smile_wink.gif)
I'm also like you in that I'm the last male in my family to be able to pass the family name on to the next generation.
Just hold on you will hopefully find someone soon.
You can start searching mail order brides in the mean time.
There are a lot of good woman in other countries just waiting to marry a good man like us.
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melvaughn
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 21:18 |
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sex
I disagree that sex was 'originally designed for reproduction only. Even in the bible (Song of Solomon) there are passages pertaining to sex within a marriage for pleasure only...There are even hints of oral sex in the 'song of songs' in which sex was created to be enjoyed within the confines of a marriage and that once married ANYTHING goes as long as it is done between the man and women only. (Oral, anal, mutal masturbation, stripping) Unfortunatly alot of christians have twisted the bible around or have put words in God's mouth because of wrong teachings and get caught up in Legalism...which tries to control what people do based on rules, which has nothing to do with TRUE christianity which is very 'freeing'
As for oral sex. I think it's more intimate than intercourse, and just as physical and emotional
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malevirgin
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 23:21 |
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oral sex and purpose of sex
Although oral sex is considered by many to not be sex, the truth of the matter is that it is. Sex refers to any transfer of bodily (sexual) fluids. When you have oral sex, even if you don't reach climax, there is a transfer of fluids (precum). Therefore, you would not be considered a virgin. But there is still the fact that you can call yourself a vaginal and anal virgin, but its not the same.
Now when it comes to the purpose of sex, the bible can be interpretted in many ways. People have different opinions on what many things in the Bible means, but most people of the Church would agree that as long as you only have sex with your spouse, it is alright to have sex. You can solely have sex for the pleasure. It does not have to be restricted to times when you are atempting to have a child. What is against the word in the Bible is to use any type of contraceptives.
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22yearguyvirgin
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posted on 02-26-2006 at 01:25 |
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herpes
I just wanted to add that a person can contract herpes from oral sex. It is not as safe as it is sometimes made out to be.
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The_Scribe
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posted on 03-05-2006 at 19:36 |
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Yes, you can contract herpes among other diseases, through oral sex.
I've seen pictures of herpes on fingers and hands.
If oral sex isn't sex then after you're married I guess you would be fine with your spouse doing that with other people.
Same thing goes for any other types of touching handjobs, etc.,
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LadyLucid
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posted on 03-17-2006 at 15:01 |
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For: THE SCRIBE
The Scribe:
Are you serious? Your seriously saying that if a woman has kisse danother man or perhaps done anything else, but hasn't had sex, they aren't a virign and therefore not good enough for you? Hop off your high horse, or else your gonna be lonely for a long ass time.
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The_Scribe
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posted on 03-21-2006 at 20:15 |
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Yes, if you have engaged in any sexual activity you are not a virgin.
Would you let you're spouse have oral sex, etc, with anyone besides you?
If you can do it before marriage you can do it after.
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cccccrazy
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posted on 03-22-2006 at 22:49 |
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???
Am I the only one that thinks oral sex is ...or would be totally disgusting???
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LadyLucid
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posted on 03-22-2006 at 23:48 |
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noooo
oral sex is fantastic, I thought it would be gross but omg its fantasmic wheeeeeeeeee
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